Tuesday, August 12, 2008
Misperceptions
Ok so I'm actually washing my car right now and I'm waiting for it to dry so I can start the next round and do touch-up. Anyway...I just wanted to come on here and rant for a quick one.
I have a masters in counseling so I genuinely feel qualified to make these statements. Yeah I did kinda wait for the degree to finally talk about this.
When something happens, say a parent dying or a hard hard breakup, or something equally tragic it's actually best to talk about it, and I mean talk about it for as long as you feel you need to. Yeah, that sounds like an intuitive statement but a lot of people really think the opposite. They think it's most healthy not to show any emotion and to completely avoid the subject all together. "Hey look at so and so smile! They must be totally over their brother dying!" Actually? It's really not that good for you, in general. First things first, your relationships from there on out will probably suffer because there will be that sore part of your life that you never really dealt with. People bringing it up shoots you into the coping mechanisms that just didn't work the first time around and are just going to make things works. Second, you're constantly in a state of "damaged", and your body knows it. It's been proven again and again that lots of negative feelings and thoughts eventually take their toll on your mood and body. That's not good.
Then there's the flip side (yeah I finished the car and I'm back again). You talk about how you feel, you're open to your feelings, and you can respond to them, properly, yourself or with the help of others. Bottling things up has never been a good idea and there are entire degrees based on that theory...ya know...like my masters (I really like saying that!).
This is the part where I feel the need to defend myself.
I'm healthier than I've ever been in my life, I'm happier than most, and I just because I talk about how I feel and SEEM to get very emotional about things doesn't mean I'm nuts or that I need to be protected in some way. I know how I operate. All my coping mechanisms are empirically based. I have uncanny metacognition. I'm solid. More importantly? I know when I'm not solid, and I have no problem mentioning it. My point? I freak out sometimes. I get angry sometimes. I'm human. It's testament to my degree (man that is awesome to say) and who I am that I'm not worse for wear right now. Bombshells are gonna hit eventually. They are going to suck and they are gonna suck hard, but people? I'm not a fragile little doll. I can take it and always come out stronger. That's just how I operate.
Anyway. That's about all the ranting I have in me today I think. Happy Birthday Mike!! :) Off to the gym!
Tommy "oh how I long for the days of nanites that'll do my workout for me" Schubert
I have a masters in counseling so I genuinely feel qualified to make these statements. Yeah I did kinda wait for the degree to finally talk about this.
When something happens, say a parent dying or a hard hard breakup, or something equally tragic it's actually best to talk about it, and I mean talk about it for as long as you feel you need to. Yeah, that sounds like an intuitive statement but a lot of people really think the opposite. They think it's most healthy not to show any emotion and to completely avoid the subject all together. "Hey look at so and so smile! They must be totally over their brother dying!" Actually? It's really not that good for you, in general. First things first, your relationships from there on out will probably suffer because there will be that sore part of your life that you never really dealt with. People bringing it up shoots you into the coping mechanisms that just didn't work the first time around and are just going to make things works. Second, you're constantly in a state of "damaged", and your body knows it. It's been proven again and again that lots of negative feelings and thoughts eventually take their toll on your mood and body. That's not good.
Then there's the flip side (yeah I finished the car and I'm back again). You talk about how you feel, you're open to your feelings, and you can respond to them, properly, yourself or with the help of others. Bottling things up has never been a good idea and there are entire degrees based on that theory...ya know...like my masters (I really like saying that!).
This is the part where I feel the need to defend myself.
I'm healthier than I've ever been in my life, I'm happier than most, and I just because I talk about how I feel and SEEM to get very emotional about things doesn't mean I'm nuts or that I need to be protected in some way. I know how I operate. All my coping mechanisms are empirically based. I have uncanny metacognition. I'm solid. More importantly? I know when I'm not solid, and I have no problem mentioning it. My point? I freak out sometimes. I get angry sometimes. I'm human. It's testament to my degree (man that is awesome to say) and who I am that I'm not worse for wear right now. Bombshells are gonna hit eventually. They are going to suck and they are gonna suck hard, but people? I'm not a fragile little doll. I can take it and always come out stronger. That's just how I operate.
Anyway. That's about all the ranting I have in me today I think. Happy Birthday Mike!! :) Off to the gym!
Tommy "oh how I long for the days of nanites that'll do my workout for me" Schubert
Saturday, August 09, 2008
For Pooping
Ok well, things haven't really calmed down. I'm sure you noticed since I haven't posted in a week or two. I finally finished my masters and things are just beginning to get back to normal. Well...not really but I'm saying that so I won't freak out. I hope it works! :) Yeah, just walked for graduation a couple hours ago and I don't think it's quite hit me that I don't have to go to class anymore. You all realize that I haven't had more than 2 weeks of vacation from masters classes for 4 years right? Yeah...not only am I looking forward to the year off but I'm looking forward to what I'm going to do next! Since SMU is now no longer off limits to attend, I'm thinking about a second masters in film theory just for the fun of it. But I will eventually go back and get my doctorate...eventually. Currently I'm personally scheduled to have it done before I'm 40, but we'll see what fate thinks about that. Hmmm...what else is going on?
Let's see...still dating around, got a "date" tomorrow which will probably end up being a little more like a meeting than anything else. Got another one in the (hopefully) near future that I'm getting more and more excited about, but since I'm not really a counter of chickens before they have hatched I'm keeping it under control.
Heather introduced me to a new karaoke place last night I really liked. I'll probably be hitting that place again in the near future...and it has NOTHING to do with the knockout (by my standards) waitress that works there and all to do with their selection of punk tunes. Hellllloooo "Beat on the Brat".
The house thing is going well? Yeah I put a question mark on that one on purpose. I signed on the house, even bought some area rugs to go in the front room and formal dining area, but after the foundation inspections (yes, plural) we've found that the house needs major work because the previous owners were idiots and never watered their foundation even though they were told to do so. Morons. They can now either decide to not make the repairs and take the house off the market or pay for the repairs and continue with the contract. I'm keeping my fingers crossed. The house IS beautiful though. I'll post the pictures eventually but I'm hanging back because I think I might have jynxed the last house we were after because I posted pictures about it. Anyway...that's incoming in the next couple days. Expect monday or Tuesday.
Other than that I have the next 5 days to take a REALLY short break and then it's back to inservice this Friday :P But since I really don't have much of anything hanging over my head this year, it could really kick ass. We'll see.
Anyway...that's about that for now. I'll be back a little later to update on the house I'm sure.
Tommy "Wants to marry Danactive" Schubert
Let's see...still dating around, got a "date" tomorrow which will probably end up being a little more like a meeting than anything else. Got another one in the (hopefully) near future that I'm getting more and more excited about, but since I'm not really a counter of chickens before they have hatched I'm keeping it under control.
Heather introduced me to a new karaoke place last night I really liked. I'll probably be hitting that place again in the near future...and it has NOTHING to do with the knockout (by my standards) waitress that works there and all to do with their selection of punk tunes. Hellllloooo "Beat on the Brat".
The house thing is going well? Yeah I put a question mark on that one on purpose. I signed on the house, even bought some area rugs to go in the front room and formal dining area, but after the foundation inspections (yes, plural) we've found that the house needs major work because the previous owners were idiots and never watered their foundation even though they were told to do so. Morons. They can now either decide to not make the repairs and take the house off the market or pay for the repairs and continue with the contract. I'm keeping my fingers crossed. The house IS beautiful though. I'll post the pictures eventually but I'm hanging back because I think I might have jynxed the last house we were after because I posted pictures about it. Anyway...that's incoming in the next couple days. Expect monday or Tuesday.
Other than that I have the next 5 days to take a REALLY short break and then it's back to inservice this Friday :P But since I really don't have much of anything hanging over my head this year, it could really kick ass. We'll see.
Anyway...that's about that for now. I'll be back a little later to update on the house I'm sure.
Tommy "Wants to marry Danactive" Schubert
